How to Talk to Someone You've Never Met

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Speaking to someone you've never met is easy. The secret is not to get nervous, pay attention and ask questions. You should not wait too long, because if you do, someone else might talk to him first, and then he will be gone. Take a deep breath, think of a good salutation, and go for it!

Steps

1. Make eye contact. This is a great way to connect to someone. They know you are interested.
   
2. Smile. The law of reciprocity says to give what you want. You will be amazed how many people smile back if you smile at them. Be sure it is a relaxed smile. There really isn't a right or wrong way to smile, so relax.
   
3. Say "Hello" or some other greeting. Be a little creative if you like. Specially if you can determine with certainty his/her first language try to greet with that language. "Aloha" and "Guten Tag" are two favorites. Be careful not to make assumptions about an individual's language based solely upon his/her appearance, however, as he could be offended if you guess incorrectly. Be warned that the more creative you are, the more likely they are to not understand you.
   
4. Evaluate the situation. If they are not maintaining eye contact with you, did not smile back, or did not respond to your greeting, then they may be otherwise distracted or this may not be a good time. If you will have an opportunity to talk to them soon (i.e. you see them on a regular basis) then you may want to wait. Otherwise continue.
   
5. Maintain eye contact and keep smiling, but be relaxed. Maintaining eye contact shows you are interested and intent, and generally everyone likes a smile.
   
6. Comment about something mutual: the weather, sports, work (if you work together), your location or situation (stuck in an elevator), traffic, etc. Talk about something you can both relate to, but not too personal. It's a great way to break the ice.
   
7. Tell them your name. Again, on the law of reciprocity, if you offer your first and last name then they will typically tell you theirs. But, it's better to start with your first name.
   
8. Offer your hand. If you offer your hand, then they will usually shake it.
   
9. Ask them a question, especially about Family, Occupation or Recreation (remember what questions are FOR). These are great things to ask questions about if you cannot think of anything else. It is important when asking questions that you are not interrogating them. Most people love to talk about themselves, but if they don't, then don't press them.
   
10. Listen to what they say. Remember details. Ask more questions that show you were paying attention.
    
11. Get a question in return. Eventually they will probably ask you a question, too (law of reciprocity). This is called a conversation. Answer their questions, but don't get too caught up talking about yourself.
    

Tips

• Practice smiling and saying "Hello" with every stranger you meet. You will be surprised how many people respond positively. Practice "small talk" too. This will build your comfort level and help you be more relaxed. And you may make more new friends in this process.
  
• Laugh at their jokes.
  
• Remember, they are probably shy, too.
  
• Be sincere.
  
• As you get to know someone, they become more comfortable with you. The secret is to never push their comfort level.
  
• Start talking to them from a safe distance, but not so far away they cannot hear you. As they become more comfortable, you can move closer.
  
• If they appear uncomfortable, then give them space and slow down.
  
• If they are already speaking with somebody else, consider whether they would want you to break in to that conversation. Generally, if people are standing in a closed circle or making direct eye contact, the group is not ready to welcome newcomers. If they stand with a space in the circle, that is usually an invitation for others to join the group.
  
• Remember what they say, and refer to it next time you talk to them. That will show you paid attention.
  
• Think of how you would initially react when you recognise a familiar friend; your body orientation, eye movement, tone of voice, type of smile. Then try to mimic it upon meeting a stranger.
  
• Don't take it personally if the individual is arrogant, sarcastic, immature, or otherwise rude in his/her initial reply. This is a sign of emotional immaturity and is usually a maladaptive defense mechanism. Confident, self-actualized people will always remain polite yet assertive even when approached by someone they don't have the least bit of interest in talking to. Simply laugh it off as if they told a joke and move on, paying them no more attention. They didn't tell a joke, of course: they were the joke.
  

Warnings

• Do not interrogate them.
  
• Do not come across as a stalker.
  
• Each step is designed to build on the increased comfort of the step before. If you start with asking them questions before you smile at them, then they are more likely to be uncomfortable.
  
• Don't hesitate before you approach, either do it casually or move on. It comes off very creepy to have somebody eyeballing you for several minutes before they walk over.
  

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How to Start a Conversation When You Have Nothing to Talk About

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Whether you are a host or a guest, there are many social situations that will call for interaction, even when you are stumped for some way to get it going. For example, you might want to help a friend's new "significant other" feel comfortable. Or, you might see a stranger across a crowded room, and realize that this is your only chance to impress Mr. or Ms. Wonderful. Then, you realize that you're not sure what to say.

Steps

1. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
   
2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
   
3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
   
4. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
   
5. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
   
6. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
   
7. Don't forget to smile and have fun with your conversation!
   

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Tips

• Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
  
• Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
  
• It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world. Also remember and plan to share anything you like, think is funny, or find intriguing. This is building up your own library of things that might be helpful to another person during a conversation someday. It will be amazing how you thread these interesting things when you least expect it, and make conversation an adventure instead of a dreadful task. If you take it to the next step and say things that you want the person to think of as adding value, and keep to yourself things that the person might not, you are actually honing your own personality to be appealing to the other person, and what is a greater act of kindness than that.
  
• If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
  
• Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
  
• Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about. You could also use a set of conversation starter question cards for inspiration.
  
• If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
  
• Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
  
• Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about
  

Warnings

• Don't be overly invasive with questions.
  
• Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
  
• Don't desperately ask personal questions.
  
• Keep eye-contact
  
• Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing
  
• Don't forget these tips,which you try to remember while reading and forget while in conversation.
  

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How to Have a Great Conversation

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The art of conversation takes practice, and is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, and you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.

Steps

1. Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you talk to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
   
2. Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
   
3. Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their lives? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
   
4. Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, "It's much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you." If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
   
5. Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say "Yes," "I see," "That's interesting," or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
   
6. Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
   
7. Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your "speaking turn" to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
   
8. Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points:
   
   • It is the differences in people--and their conversation--that make them interesting.
     
   • Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything.
     
   • A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior.
     
   • Try to omit the word "but" from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word "and", it has less of an antagonistic effect.
     
   
   
9. Consider playing devil's advocate - which requires care. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like "I agree, and..."). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
   
10. Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind? Mention it and you'll transition smoothly into further conversation!
    
11. Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption. Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!
    
12. Make a good first impression. Smile, ask questions that require more than a yes/no answer, and really listen. Maintain eye contact and keep as friendly and polite as possible.
    

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Tips

• If, after the conversation concludes, you come away feeling full of yourself there is a chance you maneuvered the talk to serve your own agenda and steam-rolled your counterpart. You used the occasion to show off your wit and knowledge. Try to keep from using a conversation to boost your ego.
  
• Always think before you speak. Do not take a long time to answer but listen well to keep on the right track with the conversation. Try not to make an embarrassing mistake, such as giving an opinion which may disrespect someone else. Choose your words carefully, but do not create pointless silences by keeping your conversation partner waiting for 5 minutes before you answer a simple question.
  
• Remember that sometimes if a conversation isn't going well, it might not be your fault! Sometimes the other person isn't interested in listening, or isn't willing to contribute or maybe by nature they are an introvert. If they don't speak or listen, then it's their fault for having poor conversation skills, not yours.
  

Warnings

• Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
  
• Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
  
• Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don't venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it's fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
  
• Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
  
• Try not to nod or respond with "Yes" and "I see" so much. It might make the person feel that you are bored and may sometimes seem like you are rushing them along. Never say anything hurtful or offensive to the other person, this may project a bad feeling between you.
  
• If it is a planned conversation, try listening to the news in case you run out of things to say; it is always a good solution.
  
• Also try not to cut the person off mid-sentence. It seems disrespectful and it makes it seem like you think that what you have to say is more important than what others have to say. Let the person finish their thoughts and then continue on with thoughts of your own.
  

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Sources and Citations

• Emily Post on "Conversation Etiquette"
  
• Talking with Children, from Family Fun Magazine
  
• The Fine Art of Small Talk, by Debra Fine
  
• http://www.afraid-of-speaking-a-speech.com/conversationstartertopics.html
  
• Develop better conversation skills
  

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How to Elevate Your Self Esteem

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For many years now, "self-esteem" has been synonymous with "positive self image," but that's not really what self-esteem is. Positive self-image is important - it's caring about yourself and seeing yourself as a unique and special individual simply because of who you are as a human being. Self-esteem is a positive sense of one's own worth that is based on actually doing worthy things - it's that feeling you get when you've accomplished something, and it's a great feeling. Here's how to build it and help others lift theirs in the process.

Steps

1. Do something to impress yourself. There's only one way to elevate your self-esteem - earn your own respect.
   
2. Set goals and work toward them. They don't have to be pie-in-the-sky, they can just be gradual improvements. For example: you have a B- overall grade point average. Resolve to raise your GPA at least a half grade each semester until you are a B+, then you will renegotiate. Begin to study harder, join a study group or choose a study partner. As you begin to gain mastery of your schoolwork and see your GPA rise to a B and finally to a B+, you will have a solid sense of accomplishment - and your self-esteem will rise.
   
3. Gain accomplishments and achievements. Study hard. Take that B+ and turn it into Honors by keeping it there for one to three years. Or play hard at a sport. Even if you are only average, the more you practice, the better you will get, and that's an achievement of its own. Choose something to excel at, choose a goal, and work hard toward it until you achieve - even working toward bettering yourself for the sake of doing it is a worthy pursuit.
   
4. Value noble pursuits. Academics and sports are time-honored traditional pursuits which can bring out the best in a person by testing intellectual and physical limits, and fostering individual and team efforts.
   
5. Help someone. Volunteer at a retirement home or a homeless shelter. Get involved with your church in a ministry to the sick or the poor. Donate your time and service to a humane animal shelter. Be a Big Brother or Big Sister. Nothing is more rewarding than offering your time and talent to elevate someone else's situation. And getting outside your own head and your normal circle of influence can be eye opening and humbling.
   
6. Practice humility. No one was ever a greater public servant than Mother Teresa, she helped the poor, the sick and the dying, and never turned anyone away. Yet Mother Teresa was a strong, noble soul who knew that if she did not help these people, perhaps no one would. That's real self-esteem: "I am only one person, but I can help these people." That's knowing and believing in the power of One Person to make a real difference.
   
7. Pass your skills and talents on to someone. Teaching someone your specialty will show you how much you really do know and have to offer. As you help a novice learn the skills you have honed, you will feel their admiration and respect for your prowess. And in turn, you will be helping another develop those same skills, so that they may be passed on again.
   
8. Allow children to build self-esteem honestly. Just because they're kids doesn't mean they're stupid - do you really think they don't know you let them win? Self-esteem isn't built by being handed a win. It's built by actually winning. Play a game with with your kid until he or she masters it - it can be anything: Dominos, Scrabble, Pokemon, a video game, Hearts - and whatever you do, do NOT play down to him or her. When you win, celebrate. Don't belittle him or call him a loser, just say, "Yay, I win!" And then say, "Let's see, did you make any mistakes? Maybe you didn't - maybe it was just a bad draw. Let's look at your game and see where it could improve." Help him, show him how to improve, and play again. Eventually, he or she will beat you. When she/he does, tell him or her to stand up on the table and do a victory dance. Look at her or his face. See how your child feels when he/she knows he/she earned this win, fair and square, and on his or her own? It's a huge difference, because it tells the child they have the power to win, if he/she sticks with something and tries hard. It can set the tone for the way she or he goes at things the rest of her or his life. Don't "let" them win. By doing so you rob him of the chance to earn a win honestly.
   

Tips

• Nobody can give you self-esteem. You have to earn it yourself.
  
• Choosing non-competitive pursuits may be possible, but competing, even if you don't win, is exciting and does make you sharpen your skills - thereby building your estimation of yourself.
  
• Believe that you can make a difference, one person or task at a time. Over time, as your efforts bear fruit, you will feel your inner sense of satisfaction at your accomplishments.
  
• Have a sense of humor - especially about yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously, keep things in perspective. And forgive thyself.
  

Warnings

• Avoid the temptation to turn self-esteem into conceit and arrogance. People with good self-esteem are very attractive. Arrogant louts aren't.
  

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How to Develop Self Esteem

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Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth. Being constantly criticized by parents and family members tends to slowly strip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self esteem strips us of our self confidence to make even the smallest of decisions. We think little of ourselves, and feel we do not deserve to be happy. Improving your self esteem increases your confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and a better life. You gain this confidence by believing that you are unique, you are special, and that you deserve to have your dreams come true!

Steps

1. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.
   
   • For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice.
     
   • Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'if I can do this well, I can do other things.' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand.
     
   • Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The newfound confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.
     
2. Reward yourself when you succeed. You deserve to have your dreams, and to make them come true. Believe in yourself completely, and others will also believe and trust you.
   
3. Improve your self confidence
   
4. Face your fears and forget all your failures. Get up and try again. It is not important that you failed, but that you tried to succeed.
   
5. Don't always try to please others. It is considerate to care about others' feelings but your needs are important also. Do not try to be like someone else either. You will be at your best when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive to be your best, do not criticize yourself if you fall short of your expectations.
   
6. Avoid loud and aggressive persons or persons who have a negative attitude which may rub off on you. Do not compare yourself to others. Just be the best that you can be.
   
7. Do something to impress yourself. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or vet's office. Be a Big Brother or Sister. Help someone else. Nothing makes you feel better about yourself than seeing how your help made someone else's load a little lighter. Take a class, study hard, and pass - learn something useful or interesting. It could be photography, oil painting, a literature appreciation class, or beginning guitar. Being accomplished raises self-esteem.
   
8. Try not to be perfect. Aiming for perfection in life is a lost cause because there is no such thing. Nobody is perfect in the eyes of everyone else, so by trying to be perfect you may just be setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, seek to achieve goals. In example, take a class of arts; study hard, and pass with flying color.They are much more realistic, much easier to reach, and can do wonders for your self-esteem.
   
9. stop the negative thoughts that you have in yourself. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever you believe about you, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or that you will never achieve success, you will in turn act as such. So, make a habit out of saying positive things about yourself and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to your advantage.
   
10. Learn to appreciate yourself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who you are and can make you distinctive. Spend more time focusing on the qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones that you dislike. You can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that you can do that will make use of your strengths. Additionally, by starting on some projects that emphasize your good traits, it will keep you busy so you will end up spending less time thinking about your weaknesses.
    

Tips

• Watch the movie "Annie." It is about an orphaned girl who always seems to see the bright side in life. It will help you raise your self-esteem and not be so negative all the time.
  
• Your inner strength will enable you to reach your goals in life. If you fall down, pick yourself up and try again.
  
• As your self confidence builds, you will feel better about yourself, and your self esteem will grow from the inside out.
  
• Not all decisions may turn out to be right ones. Just keep in mind that right or wrong, you are the one who makes the decisions in your life. Because you are responsible for your choices, you have the power to change your situation. Do not let your confidence disappear because you made one wrong choice. Do not let the feeling of self worth that you have built up crumble and fall. There are other choices to be made; believe you can make them, and you will! Remember that most people will tell you that they would rather regret things they did do than things they didn't do. Be bold! And comfort yourself, if something doesn't quite work as well as hoped, that at least you tried something.
  
• Choices are made by individuals and their ability look deeply into themselves and say 'I can do that' or 'I would like that'.
  
• Decisions will not be only about what to buy or wear. We have to make decisions all of our lives about many details, circumstances, and people. It can be where to live, what type of person to marry, a choice of a job or career, where to go to school, or whether or not to go on to College. It could be if you move to another State, or to another country.
  
• Every day look at yourself in the mirror. Try to find something to admire about yourself, and try to say some positive things about yourself and your accomplishments and achievements.
  
• Make sure your self talk is positive at all times. Tell yourself how great you are, or how good you look today, anything positive about yourself to help you feel confident. Make being positive your natural state of being.
  
• Visualize yourself being surrounded by people, who are patting you on the back or shaking your hand, or standing clapping you. Visualization is a very powerful tool to use.
  
• The most important thing of all is that you have to believe in yourself. If you believe you can, then you will be able to.
  
• Once you convince your subconscious the way you want to be, you will find that you will start to become far more confident and life will be the way you want it.
  
• Be aggressive. Boosting your self-esteem is all about getting what you need/want. So do things for your own sake. Remember, you must help yourself first before you can help others. You can't lose or give away what you don't have so be selfish and when you come to a higher level to yourself you can start helping others with lower self-esteem. And at the end only you will recollect what you have done and define who you are and what you're about.
  
• Listen to a song that suits your mood. There is a song for almost everything! When you jam to a favorite tune that you can relate to, it gives you confidence.
  

Warnings

• Some decisions will involve another person, a medical decision, or where to live if you marry. Therefore, some decisions may have to be made jointly. You might have to compromise, but once your self confidence becomes something that you can rely upon, that inner feeling of self worth will guide you through tough decisions.
  
• The opposite feeling of self-esteem is anxiety. But don't immediately dismiss this feeling. Feeling anxious is not a good nor a bad feeling. It's just a mechanism of yourself of telling you that there's something wrong and you need to act upon it. Anxiety is the fuel to responding to what is wrong and thus developing self esteem.
  
• Be careful not to overdo your esteem-building, as it could lead to conceit and arrogance if not done in moderation.
  
• Everyone goes through the phases of feeling low or high i.e. low or high self esteem. This happens especially; if you judge yourself by your successes or failures (as others do). If you learn to estimate yourself by the nature of actions (e.g. their benefit to the society), then you are likely to develop high self esteem (respect yourself) without any disrespect or bitterness about others.
  

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• How to Accept Who You Are
  

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How to Join a Conversation

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Hear a conversation that sounds interesting and want to get in it?

Steps

1. Listen to what they are saying, and when it's appropriate, give your opinion on whatever they're talking about or ask a question. If you don't know what they are talking about but it sounds interesting, ask them about it.
   
2. Continue in the conversation as if you were already part of it, and hopefully they won't have a problem with you joining. It is often best to start with a small comment and judge the reaction before continuing.
   

Tips

• If you walk in on a conversation and have no clue what they're talking about, don't say anything until you've figured out what they're talking about. You could say something stupid and embarrass yourself.
  
• If you know the people who are talking they will be more likely to let you join. However, if anyone hints to go away, you should.
  
• Try to see what kind of conversation it is before jumping in. Personal conversations are best avoided, and do not linger near one too long, as you might be deemed nosy.
  
• Try to read the body language of the people talking. Before you join, see if the people are talking closely or in hushed tones; if it seems to be a serious conversation, you might want to leave them alone. If the group seems more open, take the opening. If the members of the conversation try to nudge you out, take the hint and assume the conversation was personal in nature.
  

Warnings

• The biggest conversation-killer is self-consciousness. Don't worry about saying something stupid; it happens to all of us at some point. The worst thing you can do is to not speak up when there is a fitting opportunity.
  
• Do not repetitively barge in on a conversation, or else you might be considered nosy, and that will likely be used against you when you try to join future conversations.
  
• Do not barge in on a personal conversation, as you probably will receive negative feedback from the conversers.
  
• Sometimes, even if you do join the conversation appropriately, some or all of the people involved will still be irritated and try to push you out. If so, that is their problem, and you should probably not bother trying to join their conversations again; it isn't worth it.
  

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• How to Make Small Talk
  
• How to Start a Conversation With a Stranger
  
• How to Be Confident
  
• How to Converse with a Guy Online
  
• How to Talk Professionally on the Phone
  
• How to Talk to Parents So They'll Understand
  

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How to Clean a Loofah or Natural Sponge

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Loofahs and natural sponges become slimy when used for a time with soap. Bringing them back to as good as new is simple.

Steps

1. Rinse the loofah or natural sponge under a cold running water.
   
2. Soak the loofah or sponge in a small bowl filled with 2 tablespoons of vinegar to each litre of water. Leave to soak for 2 hours.
   
3. Remove from the bowl and shake gently to remove excess liquid.
   
4. Set out to dry on a clean surface, such as the bathtub.
   
5. Use again. The loofah or natural sponge should be as good as new.
   

Tips

• It is advisable to wash loofahs and natural sponges regularly to deter soap build-up. Follow the cleaning advice here regularly to remove soap build-up.
  

Things You'll Need

• Loofah or natural sponge
  
• Running cold water
  
• Bowl
  
• 2 tablespoons vinegar per litre water
  

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• How to Soften a Hard Loofah
  
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How to Come up With Good Conversation Topics

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Even if you know how to start a conversation and make it a good one, there's still the issue of choosing what you're going to talk about. Some topics are inappropriate in some situations, and some are just plain boring. Here are some topics to keep the conversation alive while keeping your foot out of your mouth.

Steps

1. Offer a genuine compliment like "Those are nice shoes" or "You did a fantastic job with that presentation today" or "I love the way you play the piano." Try to make it a compliment that involves something they did, rather than something they are, because then you can carry the conversation forward by asking them how they did what they did. E.g. "Where did you find the shoes?" or "How did you learn to put together such great presentations?" or "Who taught you to play the piano?" If you tell someone they have beautiful eyes, they can thank you and the conversation ends there.
   
2. Bring up family. Your safest bet here is siblings. Parents can be a touchy subject for people who had troubled upbringings, have estranged parents, or whose parents have recently passed away. The topic of children can be uncomfortable for couples who are having fertility issues or disagreements about whether to have children, or for a person who wants to have kids but hasn't found the right person or situation. So stick with asking about siblings:
   
   • Do you have any siblings? How many?
     
   • What are their names?
     
   • Do you look alike?
     
   • Do you all have similar personalities?
     
   • Who was the favorite?
     
   • You could mention a 2007 study which found that the oldest sibling usually has the highest IQ, but younger siblings tend to excel in other areas of life, like sports and arts.[1] If you have siblings, you can say something like "I know that's true/not true for my family when I was growing up, is it true for yours?"
     
   
   
3. Ask about their travels. Ask the person where they've been; even if they have never left their home town, you can always ask where they want to go.
   
   • If you had to permanently relocate to any other country, which one would it be and why?
     
   • Of all the cities in the world you've visited, which one was your favorite?
     
   • Where did you go on your last vacation, and how did you like it?
     
   • What was the worst vacation/trip you ever had?
     
   
   
4. Inquire about food and drink. Food is a little better to talk about because there's always the chance of bumping into someone who has had issues with alcohol abuse, whether they were alcoholics, or they had negative experiences with an alcoholic. So talk about food. Be careful that the conversation doesn't stray into someone going on and on about their diet, how they're trying to lose weight, etc. That can take the conversation in a negative direction.
   
   • If you had to choose one last meal before you die, what would it be? (This might be a bit morbid to some, use with care.)
     
   • What's your favorite breakfast food?
     
   • Where do you like to go when you eat out?
     
   • What's the best dish you can cook up?
     
   • What's your favorite kind of candy?
     
   • What's the worst restaurant experience you've ever had?
     
   
   
5. Ask about work. This one is especially tricky. Use with care. A date might think you're a gold digger. Or the conversation could end up sounding like a job interview. Still, if you can handle it carefully and keep it short and sweet (and prevent it from turning into a competition over whose job or boss is worse) then here are some starters:
   
   • What was your first job ever?
     
   • Who was your favorite boss in the past and why?
     
   • When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
     
   • What do you like best about your job?
     
   • If money was no object, but you still had to work, what would be your dream job?
     
   
   
6. Find out about their interests and hobbies. This is where it starts to get more personal. It's up to you to carry the conversation beyond these questions in an appropriate way. Just always remember to stay positive, ask questions, and relate.
   
   • What do you do in your spare time?
     
   • What kind of music do you listen to?
     
   • What kinds of movies do you like to watch?
     
   • What are your favorite TV shows?
     
   • What's your favorite board game or card game?
     
   
   
7. Play it safe and don't talk about any of the following:
   
   • past relationships
     
   • anything that can be answered with one word
     
   • politics
     
   • religion
     
   • illness, bad health
     
   • unpleasant smells
     
   • job woes (boredom, bad boss, etc.)
     
   • specialized interests
     
   • dark topics like serial killers and stalkers
     
   • bragging
     
   • any negative judgments
     
   • giving advice
     
   
   

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Tips

• Read up on current events. Read the paper and browse social bookmarking sites for current, interesting stories, but try to keep away from politics and religion.
  
• Listen carefully, and try to relate. After someone has answered, relate your own experience to something they mentioned, or answer the question yourself, even if they don't ask you.
  

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• How to Start a Conversation When You Have Nothing to Talk About
  
• How to Have a Great Conversation
  
• How to Join a Conversation
  
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Sources and Citations

1. ↑ http://www.livescience.com/health/070621_birth_order.html

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How to Soften a Hard Loofah

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When you buy a loofah sponge in the store,they all feel as hard as a rock. When it gets soaked with warm water, it should soften up to be comfortable to use. But what if yours stays as hard as a rock?

Steps

1. If your loofah has a handle (to make a back scrubber) do not try using boiling water -- you will dissolve the glue & the handle will come out.
   
2. Soak the loofah in a mild bleach solution to break down the fibers somewhat (maybe half a cup of bleach in a gallon of water).
   
3. If you use too much bleach, or leave it soaking too long, the fibers get way too loose, and you will not be able to use your loofah to exfoliate your skin, etc.
   

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How to Make a Loofah Basket

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Making a loofah basket from loofah fruit is a simple project that will provide you with a useful, eco-friendly container for bathroom items that you'd like to keep together in one place.

Steps

1. Cut the top off the loofah sponge.
   
2. Upend the loofah sponge and cut down the middle.
   
3. Open the cut loofah sponge right out.
   
4. Take a small round piece of cardboard that is sized to fit at the base of the cut loofah.
   
5. Wrap the loofah sponge around the cardboard circle base.
   
6. Close the loofah sponge.
   
   • Holding the end with the cardboard circle, so that the circle does not slip loose, quickly stitch together the two sides of the wrapped loofah.
     
   
   
7. Cut a handle from a spare loofah sponge piece.
   
8. Hold the handle to the edge of the open top of the loofah sponge.
   
9. Attach the handle by stitching it to each side the loofah sponge basket.
   
10. Decorate the basket. Glue or stitch on the decoration that you have chosen.
    
11. Use it. Place emery boards, nail scissors etc. in your basket for storage and easy use.
    

Tips

• If presenting as a gift, put brand new items into the basket for a complete spa kit.
  
• Keep the basket off wet surfaces; the cardboard will get soaked. If this worries you, cover the cardboard circle completely in plastic contact before making the basket. Not as eco-friendly but more waterproof.
  

Warnings

• Be careful that you may cut yourself with the scissors or knife. If needed, have adult supervision present.
  

Things You'll Need

• Loofah fruit
  
• Cardboard circle
  
• Scissors
  
• Needle and thread
  
• Decorative item such as lace, ribbon etc.
  

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• How to Soften a Hard Loofah
  
• How to Clean a Loofah or Natural Sponge
  
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• How to Have a Mini Spa in Your Bathroom
  

Sources and Citations

• VideoJug Video demonstration of article; made by Giannyl. Original source of article; shared with permission & appreciation.
  

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How to Not Always Talk About the Same Things

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Everyone talks about the weather or the front page headlines from the news. The more knowledge you possess and varied your interests, the more different subjects you will be interested in talking about.

Steps

1. Watch the world around you, and look for things that interest you. A broad vision of life will expand the subjects you will enjoy talking about.
   
2. Look for new friends in different walks of life or different backgrounds. Their perspectives, philosophies, and ideas may be interesting topics of conversation.
   
3. Listen to the people you talk with, and if they have unique interests, learn more about them. If you are frequently with someone who loves sports, take time to learn some of the basics of their favorites. The same would go for fishing, needlepoint, opera, or any host of potential subjects.
   
4. Search for new perspectives in your own interests, and keep current on the leading edge of discoveries in those areas. When Pluto was declared a non-planet some months ago, you can be sure it was a hot topic in the astronomical community, but people on the streets were talking about it too.
   
5. Study the reaction of people you normally talk with when you try to bring up new topics. If you see drooping eyelids and hear yawns, you are not stimulating them, you are sedating them, but if eyebrows rise, and you see response, you are on the right track.
   
6. Remember, with exception to offensive language or culturally taboo subjects, there are limitless possibilities. Movies, music, fashion, business, sports, politics, celebrities, school, and current events, even... the weather, offer unlimited conversational subjects, if you take a little time to be interested in them.
   
7. Develop hobbies and look for clubs or organizations that support them. This will be a unique ground to learn and share ideas and thoughts as your knowledge grows.
   

Tips

• Watch at least a little local and world news whenever you can.
  
• Read the headlines in various sections of the local paper.
  
• Listen occasionally to talk radio, these are the experts on talking about a host of subjects.
  

Warnings

• When the group is talking about one subject, don't try to force a change in topic.
  
• Spend time listening to others, for you will soon find few people willing to listen to you.
  
• For older people, please do not go into minute details about your ailments. The only people interested in your medical history are you, your doctor and a lawyer, if you are suing for malpractice.
  
• Repetitive talk is often seen in people obsessed not merely with their business interests, but with a particular mission; such as vegetarianism, deaddiction, faith healing etc. Introspect and find out if you are obsessed. This would make you far more acceptable, likable and respectable and enable you to further the true essence of your mission as well!
  

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How to Handcraft an Organic Loofah

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Natural loofah sponges stimulate your circulatory system, exfoliate and rejuvenate your skin, and massage and activate the nerve cells beneath your skin. Best of all, you can grow them yourself, and they're biodegradable. The loofah vine is found naturally in the Middle East and in India and it will thrive in other warm dry areas such as USDA Zone 10. However, with care you can grow it indoors.

Steps

1. Remove the loofah fruit from the vine when ripe.
   
2. Peel off the outer layer of the fruit to reveal the sponge inside.
   
3. Cut the loofah down the middle section.
   
4. Cut out excess spongy area inside. The inside should end up looking hollow.
   
5. Cut the loofah edges down to a small hand-held shape.
   
   • You should now have two separate loofah pieces that are identical in shape and fit against one another.
     
   
   
6. Cut a length of fabric. This will serve as the handle that lets you hold the loofah. It only needs to be long enough to fit across the cut-down loofah shape, with edges for tucking under.
   
7. Place the handle across the loofah sponge.
   
   • Tuck each end of the fabric strip into the middle section of the loofah sponge on each side and sandwich into place.
     
   
   
8. Stitch the two loofah pieces together, firmly holding the fabric handle in place.
   
   • When you have stitched around the entire loofah sponge, you will be able to hold it with the handle, as demonstrated in this image.
     
   
   

Video

Tips

• Wrap in recycled paper or add to a basket to give as an organic gift.
  
• You can find seeds on ebay and other places on the internet if you search for "loofah seeds".
  
• Garden centers in home improvement stores often have the seeds, which may be called Luffa Gourd, Chinese Okra, or other names.
  

Warnings

• If a loofah is to be used, be sure to periodically clean the loofah by soaking it in a bleach solution.[1] (Many health professionals do not recommend the use of a loofah due to bacteria.)
  
• Replace the loofah with a new one every 6 weeks if it is to be used daily.
  
• Do not be overzealous when using the loofah as an exfoliating tool as this may irritate the skin.
  

Things You'll Need

• Loofah fruit
  
• Fabric strip
  
• Needle and thread
  
• Scissors
  

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• How to Make a Loofah Basket
  
• How to Soften a Hard Loofah
  
• How to Clean a Loofah or Natural Sponge
  
• How to Create A Home Spa Experience Without Spending A Dime
  
• How to Have a Mini Spa in Your Bathroom
  
• How to Make Bath Bombs
  

Sources and Citations

• VideoJug Video demonstration of article; made by Giannyl. Original source of article; shared with permission & appreciation.
  

1. ↑ http://jcm.asm.org/cgi/content/abstract/32/2/469

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How to Make the Most out of Your Night

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People are often so busy these days that it becomes easy to lose ourselves. There is never time for ourselves or to do the things we enjoy. Well here are a few steps to consider when you're in need of some personal TLC.

Steps

1. Take a bath. It becomes a luxurious oasis for relaxing and enjoying the few free minutes to yourself.
   
2. Buy a book. Get a recommendation of a good book from a friend, or ask to borrow theirs. Escaping into the words of the book will allow you some free time to unwind and not think about everything else going on in your life.
   
3. Go for a walk. While most people are so tired by the time they get home at the end of their day, it seems like a tall order to take a walk, but the benefits you could receive are well worth it. Walking helps us alleviate stress, and increases endorphin es, which makes us happier. When you get home, put your sneakers on and walk outside. You'll instantly be happy that you did it.
   
4. Start cooking. Cooking is a great way to escape and enjoy some alone time. This is a great idea for people who cook often anyway, but the difference is, to try new things, and to define that while you're cooking in the kitchen this particular night, you are not to be disturbed. Pour yourself a glass of wine (if you're of age of course) and pick a new recipe to try. The new experience, and rewarding finished result will leave you feeling satisfied (and full from a delicious meal!)
   

Tips

• These suggestions work best when they're treated as mandatory events. If you give yourself the option to not do it, you will feel dissatisfied and will be right back to square one. Stick with it, and give yourself some peace of mind.
  

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How to Mix Colors to Make Pink

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Pink is a very feminine, interesting color. It is not on any color wheel, yet it is the favorite of thousands of people around the world. Almost everything can look good in pink!

Steps

1. Decide what you want in pink. If you want paint in pink, you will use one method. If you want a sweater in pink, yet another kind of situation entirely will be required. If you want light in pink, you will have to use another method.
   
2. Paint
   
   • • If you are using water colors, you will need only one color to make pink: red. You may use the "wet wash" method. Just cover your white paper with water and then apply a small amount of red paint, washing it all across the entire page.
       
     • If you are using acrylics or oils, you will use predominantly white paint. Just dab some white paint on your palette and add a tiny drop of any of the reds. Mix well. Add ever so small a dab more if you are not satisfied with the level of pink saturation at first. Use of a brick red will give you a muddier pink, closer to a peach. Vermilion will give you a nice shade of pure pink.
       
     
     
   
   
3. Frosting For frosting, you can use a method very similar to that used for paint. Start with white frosting. Add to this the most minuscule drop possible of red food coloring. The red is very strong, and will turn that white frosting pink in a jiffy. Stir very well, until you have a nice uniform blend. Add another drop if you want a deeper shade. And then, since pink frosting might be good in a flavor such as strawberry, add some flavoring as well. Again, just a small touch.
   
4. Knitting Use red wool and white wool. Choose a pattern which allows a large amount of intertwining of the materials. From a distance, your completed sweater will almost look pink.
   
5. Cheeks For pink cheeks you won't do any mixing at all. Just go outside for a walk on a cold day. Of course you could use rouge, but that may not be as healthy for you.
   
6. Lights for a stage Cross two or more beams of light to create a pink effect. Ideally, you should use an even number of light beams, half white/clear, and the other set red. If you want a darker pink, use more red, and for a lighter pink, make sure that you use more white beams than red.
   
7. Flowers You can dye flowers to a nice shade of pink. The trick of course, is to begin with a white flower, and then to add red coloring. Carnations work very well for this method. Just put some red food coloring in a glass of water. Fill a large bowl with water and get a good pair of nice sharp garden shears. Place your stem under the water, and cut the stem with the shears, keeping the stem under water the entire time. Cut about an inch off the bottom. Then insert the stem directly into the glass you had already filled with red water. Wait just a few hours, and you will have a pink carnation.
   

Tips

• Obviously, more red = dark pink, more white = light pink.
  

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Sources and Citations

• http://desktoppub.about.com/od/colorpalettes/l/blcpred.htm
  

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How to Relax After a Long Day

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After a long day of working and playing hard you often feel tired, wound-up and frustrated. This is a common feeling as many people don't use a lot of time relaxing and the stress gradually builds up, particularly when a major event has happened or at the middle of the week. When you need a pick-me-up try these steps and you will ready to face the world again.

Steps

1. Fill a hot bath with aromatic bubbles - Find some bubble bath, spa quality if you can afford it, alough it can be one that your children use, as those still soften your skin and let you relax. Bath bombs and 'floating island' type bubble bath are also very effective.
   
2. Eat some food - Food often picks you up and makes you more content. Soup and broth is the best if you are on the run and have limited time as you can heat some varieties in the microwave at home or work. If not, try your favourite easy meal. If you are cold, eat something filling and hot.
   
3. Light some scented candles - Cheap can be cheerful if you smell the candle before you buy it. Long or squat, the flickering flame will help soothe your mind.
   
4. Play a soothing CD or tape, such as classical and perhaps whale or bush noises if you have one. Stay away from rock, opera, punk or pop music, unless you want to be energised.
   
5. Make your sleeping or living area combtuable - If you go to sleep after work, as soon as you get home turn on your electric blankets and heaters if it is cold. Open windows a few hours before you go to sleep if it is hot.
   

Tips

• If your hair is looking down then get some olive oil and mix it with one egg white and spread it over your hair, put your hair in a shower cap while you bathe and when you're done, rinse and shampoo.
  
• Use Your favorite smelling bath bubbles.
  
• Try not to watch the television if you need to get something done (like for work). If you do you'll probably be even more stressed out because you didn't get done what was needed to get done. Do this first so you can have a clear mind while relaxing
  

Warnings

• Never leave a candle unwatched for a long period of time. Always sit it on a holder or in a deep bowl or saucer.
  
• Try not to leave the bath unwatched either as it may overflow, and test it if is too hot for your liking.
  

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How to Look Great at the Pool

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Do you want to look great while at the pool? Some simple know-how about key accessories will have you feeling great and looking even better.

Steps

1. Obtain a bathing suit that looks good on your figure. You don't have to get a bikini. Just wear what you are going to be comfortable wearing; tankinis, full-piece swimsuits, bikinis with skirts or wraps - all are fine provided they fit well. Make sure to get patterns or colors that are bright and summery. If you like a certain part of your body, dress to flatter that part. Like if you have long legs, then wear bottoms that have ties on the sides. If you like your back, wear a backless. If you like your butt, wear bottoms with ruffles.
   
2. Purchase a great pair of sunglasses. They don't have to be designer to look good. You can get a great looking pair at any drugstore. Just make sure that they suit your personality and look good on you.
   
3. Wear cute summery sandals. Get some that are bright colors. Make sure that they are comfortable though because they could hurt your feet.
   
4. Be manicured. Since your feet are going to be showing a lot, then your toenails are going to need to be cut neatly and painted in bright fun colors. You could try hot pink, lime green, or bright orange. Luminescent pastels are also cool.
   
5. Add sunscreen lotion. Before you leave the house rub or spray your sunscreen lotion in. This will give it time to soak in or dry and will be effective by the time you're facing the glare of the sun.
   

Tips

• Try putting on some waterproof mascara. they also have waterproof eyeliner, and many lip glosses have staying power as well.
  
• Earrings can still work if you wear them. Make sure that they are studs though, because you don't want them to fall off or get stuck on something.
  
• Add a cute bracelet or ankle bracelet if you like being adorned. Make sure that it fits well because you don't want these items to fall off in the pool - you'll never find them again! Nix them if you want a truly sporty look - jewelry is a hassle not attractive in this case.
  
• Have a bright, summery beach towel to lay on. Make sure that it is colorful or has a cute pattern.
  
• if you want to wear jewelry to the pool, make sure it is jewelry that wears well in water, preferably originally from the water, such as pearls (faux, so its no big deal if they break) shell and mother of pearl jewelry.
  
• a hair holder of some sort, and leave in conditioner are great to have. if you put your hair in a braid, its convenient, looks good, and when your hair dries, it gives you cute waves.
  

Warnings

• Make sure that you are going to be comfortable in the bathing suit you choose. You don't want to be uncomfortable at the pool.
  
• You do not always have to wear a bikini, 1 piece sets are hot too.
  
• Apply lots of sunscreen (1 full ounce) and try to stay out of the sun whenever you can.
  

Things You'll Need

• Swimsuit suitable for your figure
  
• Sunscreen
  
• Sunglasses
  
• Towel
  
• Hat
  
• Jewelry (optional and not recommended for the sporty look)
  
• Waterproof mascara (optional)
  
• Sandals
  
• Quality nails on show
  

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